{"id":32942,"date":"2021-08-07T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-08-06T23:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/?p=32942"},"modified":"2026-09-24T13:45:36","modified_gmt":"2026-09-24T04:45:36","slug":"thoughts-are-you-other-blaming-or-self-blaming","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/20210807\/blogs\/thoughts\/thoughts-are-you-other-blaming-or-self-blaming","title":{"rendered":"[Thoughts] Are you other-blaming or self-blaming?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" src=\"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/DSC01229-1-1024x682.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-32941\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/07\/DSC01229-1-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/07\/DSC01229-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/07\/DSC01229-1-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/07\/DSC01229-1-1200x800.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/07\/DSC01229-1.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People tend to blame others for everything that comes up&#8230; (self-loathing) <br> In the end, everyone&#8230; sweeps things under the rug, sweeps things under the rug&#8230; (&#8216;;&#8217;) <br> This is the easiest way, but I wonder if it causes everything to decay&#8230; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> &#8220;Observe others&#8217; conduct and correct your own&#8221; <em> <\/em> is what the ancients used to say so well. <br> It really is about constant self-improvement every day. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When something goes wrong, you sometimes hear people say, &#8220;That guy did this, that guy did that.&#8221; <br><br> But <br> didn&#8217;t my own choice play a role? Didn&#8217;t I fail to research well enough? Or was it a lack of verification? <br> It&#8217;s also good to hold yourself accountable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For example, even when buying products or services, it was you who chose them. I think falling for exaggerated advertising is also part of the cause. <br> I understand the feeling of &#8220;That jerk!!!&#8221; but if you can think that you also bear responsibility for choosing, your anger will ease and your mind will become more generous, don&#8217;t you think? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> Maybe it&#8217;s a trick to keeping your stomach from hurting and living peacefully day by day with a mild mindset? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People tend to blame others for everything that comes up&#8230; (self-loathing) In the end, everyone&#8230; sweeps things under the rug, sweeps things under the rug&#8230; (&#8216;;&#8217;) This is the easiest way, but I wonder if it causes everything to decay&#8230; &#8220;Observe others&#8217; conduct and correct your own&#8221; is what the ancients used to say so well. It really is about constant self-improvement every day.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":32941,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"pochipp_cv_data":"","swell_btn_cv_data":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[37],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-32942","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-thoughts"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32942","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32942"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32942\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/32941"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32942"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32942"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.decoboco.info\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32942"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}